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Teens, the Internet and Toxic Support

Teens, the Internet and Toxic Support

The internet has brought us a lot of nice things like kitten videos, the ability to watch only the funny parts of Saturday Night Live and really great gifs. But it’s also brought us a lot of ugliness, sometimes in the form of support groups that can actually...
The Myths of Good Parents

The Myths of Good Parents

We do not raise children to go out into the world and be perfect and build perfect relationships with perfect people. That would be impossible. We raise children to be good enough to build good enough relationships with other good enough people. Therefore, good...
Kids and Gender Identity Exploration

Kids and Gender Identity Exploration

Both in my office and in my real life (the one where I’m not wearing my therapist hat) I am meeting more and more kids and teens who identify as transgender, gender variant or gender queer. And I am also talking to more and more worried parents who are trying to...
To the woman feeling like a bad mother

To the woman feeling like a bad mother

I see you over there, avoiding playdates, avoiding Facebook (or staying up late reading Facebook like a punishment, because you think you deserve to feel bad about yourself). I see you at the grocery store with the tantruming 3-year old, trying not to cry or scream or...
All behavior makes sense

All behavior makes sense

Here are two things that everyone everywhere needs to know about everyone else: People do the best they can with what they know. All behavior makes sense when viewed in context. This is true for ourselves and our friends and family and definitely for our kids. Knowing...
Parenting Tips: Loving Our Messy Kids

Parenting Tips: Loving Our Messy Kids

One of my children really liked to make messes when she was small. You take a kid who is curious, who is sensory seeking and who is creative and you get a lot of messes. (Many of you are nodding and sighing and wringing out a sponge ready to clean up your own child’s...
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