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“I choose to believe everything is a miracle”

pastelleaves-insideI heard this story on NPR on the drive home from work on Friday. It’s the story of a mom and her son who lost a child, Jesse, in the Sandy Hook shooting. I was particularly struck by the story told by JT, Jesse’s now 13-year old brother. He found healing by connecting to child survivors of the¬†Rwandan genocide via Skype. Meeting them, hearing their stories and being witness to their own healing inspired him to work towards forgiveness of Adam Lanza.

“It wasn’t hard to forgive when I was never really mad,” he says. “I was just sad.”

It was a reminder to me of how important it is to find other people who will grieve with us and who understand our experiences. Grief can be so isolating and so lonely. Connecting with others who will listen and love us through it is the most healing thing we can do.

You can listen to the whole story (and read the transcript) by clicking here.

Who made you the center of the universe?

This artist, Laura Mvula, is my new iTunes obsession. I discovered her thanks to Son of Baldwin and I’ve kept her on high rotation. I’m putting the lyrics below the video but it’s a song about self-acceptance in the face of tired and limited standards of beauty:

“That’s Alright”

I will never be what you want
And that’s alright
Got my skin and light
And my body ain’t tight
And that’s alright
But if I might
I’ma stand and fight

I will never be what you want
And that’s alright
I’ll play my own damn tune
I’ll shine like the moon
And very soon
I’ll soon fly over you
And what you gonna do
When I fly over you

And who made you the center of the universe
Who made you the center of the universe

And every morning when I wake up I pray for you
And then I pray for me
That soon you’ll see
How love can be
Our love will set you free
What’s it gonna be
See the beauty in your eyes

And who made you the center of the universe
(Who made you judge and jury over me)
Who made you the center of the universe
(Now leave me be)
Who made you the center of the universe
(Don’t need no rules in my world)
Who made you the center of the universe

I will never be what you want
And that’s alright
Got my skin and light
And my body ain’t tight

I will never be what you want
And that’s alright
Got my skin and light
And that’s alright

And who made you the center of the universe
(Who made you judge and jury over me)
Who made you the center of the universe
(Now leave me be)
Who made you the center of the universe
(Don’t need no rules in my world)
Who made you the center of the universe

Lead an interesting life

This is long (more than 16 minutes, which is 2 years in internet time) but worth it.

Scott Lew is a screenwriter, a dad, a poet and he’s been living with ALS for more than a decade. He’s got a good life and you can watch the documentary below for some inspiration and encouragement. His wife is pretty cool, too.

(Plus there’s bonus Dawn and Oz slash, if you’re into that. No judgment!)

Awesome shaped

Today’s Therapeutic Moment brought to you by the artist Moolist. Here‘s the original piece, which you can download and make your desktop background if you’re so inclined, and here‘s more of her work. You can also subscribe to her Tumblr here.

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