Here are two things that everyone everywhere needs to know about everyone else: People do the best they can with what they know; and all behavior makes sense when viewed in context.
Therapy is a lot like writing. Sometimes you come to the page with a plan and sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you have it all outlined and mapped out and sometimes you’re free writing whatever comes into your head no matter how messy and disorganized and ungrammatical it might be.
I began saying to myself, “Right now in this moment, in this place be the healthiest person you can be in this conversation with tech support.”
I think that even if we never ever ever breathe an unasked for word about our kids’ birth parents that our collective unconsciousness is already, in some ways, defining our own position as parents to our children.
It takes a village, this parenting thing, and the village can cover the things you don’t like to do so that you can really really really enjoy spending time with your child doing the things that you both like.
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