Myth: Good Parents Always Enjoy Their Kids. No. they don’t because the children of good parents are not always enjoyable.
Before we can take responsibility and before we can move to forgiveness, we have to confront the depth and breadth of the harm done to us.
Sometimes when you’ve won an argument you can help the person who lost save face by letting them get the last word in. I think this can be particularly helpful with kids.
I don’t think that any therapist can be the right counselor for every client because we are all so very, very different. I think sometimes a client who doesn’t get very far from us may not be ready to go far but also I think sometimes they just aren’t going to be able to do that work with us.
This is not a post about spanking even though I’m going to use spanking as an example; it’s a post about context and relationships. When I worked at the women’s shelter in Portland one of our rules was “no spanking in shelter,” which is a good rule for a domestic violence program, right? If a mom entering the program protested …