Before we can take responsibility and before we can move to forgiveness, we have to confront the depth and breadth of the harm done to us.
We parents, we sometimes have a hard time remembering that our children are fully their own people. It’s understandable because for such a very long time they do seem to be completely of us.
I know that one of our greatest hopes as parents is that we can somehow protect our children from the inevitable hurts of life. We cry with them when they fall as toddlers. We chew on our nails fretting about them when they don’t get invited to the birthday. And sometimes if our worry for them is too great …
It’s all right to give yourself permission to check out on Sunday. You’re not being selfish; you’re taking care of yourself.